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11/12/2016

The Dark Side To The New Age Christmas

Has Christmas lost it's meaning? And what would Christmas be like if we didn't have the internet?


Money has always been a taboo subject to talk about- especially when it comes to the lack of it but at Christmas time it's even more so. Most of us probably can't imagine looking our family members dead in the eye and saying "I really can't afford to buy presents this year. I'm sorry" but unfortunately this is the case for a lot of parents around the world today and I wanted to explore the dark side of having access to everything online this time of year.

I went out shopping with a friend a few weeks ago. A friend I haven't seen for a long time. She has here life to lead and so do I, but it's nice to meet up every now and again for a catch-up. When we do see each other it's like we've never spent time apart. No awkward silences, just pure love and interest for one another. This time, though, it was different. I felt almost as if I was being looked down on for not wanting to buy everything and anything, for not wanting to eat in the cafes which have two-digit charges for a carrot cake. All before she finally said it. "How can you not afford £10?", after staring at her in astonishment for a while I just said "I have money but I like to spend it wisely and save it for more important things." You see, the topic of money is always a sore one; unless of course you're a cast member of Made in Chelsea. As much as I love the drama in that show, it doesn't exactly portray the accurate spending habits of a twenty- thirty something, does it?

Expectations


Growing up in such a digital age I like to think I have a unique perspective on technology and the place it has in today's society. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm the first to sing it's praises. When it comes to starting up my blog and connecting with an incredible bunch of like-minded people that I wouldn't have otherwise, it's almost as if there's no downside. However, there's definitely a part of the new age which people shy away from talking about. God forbid you actually point out a negative of universal access to the internet. The expectations. As much as we like to pretend they aren't there, it almost isn't up for debate anymore. Buying someone a present now is almost like playing a game of The Price is Right. Guessing how much they're spending on you and trying to equate to that. What happened to the thought that counts?

Comparisons


The only time people tend to talk about the comparisons we make subconsciously are when it comes to looks and weight but it certainly goes deeper (or should I say shallower) than that. Through no fault of our own, we're constantly comparing our spending habits to those that we wouldn't even know about if it wasn't for the WWW. Believing that we haven't bought enough or rather spent enough, forgetting all together that different people have different budgets. We should appreciate every present we receive and forget about what everyone else is getting on the same day.

Technology


While speaking to my Mum yesterday, I told her that I don't know how she copes with Christmas every year. I didn't grow up in an incredibly lavished household and we certainly didn't have money to throw around but every year, without fail, me and all of my brothers and sisters were all showered with gifts. I felt well and truly spoilt and yet looking back; I can see a shift in the kinds of things that I scribbled on my wish list. Of course, you're going to be asking for different things as you get older and I've found that each year that my age increases my list also decreases. It would be silly of me to ignore, however, that a massive contributor is because I've grown in the time that technology was becoming more accessible and also more impressive. Who else remembers the excitement of flicking through an Argos catalogue and circling all the things you like. I hate to think about the children growing up just asking for iPads and iPhones because there is so much time for that when you get older. It's also a burden on the parents starting off the new year on a bad footing from forking out on new technology pieces. Just a thought eh?

Consumerism


Without sounding like my Grandma when she speaks of a "simpler time" and the joy of carollers etc: there's no doubt that traditions have changed over the years and it's something even I, as only a twenty year-old, have seen for myself. I briefly touched upon this in an earlier post but I wanted to elaborate on it. I stated that "Escaping the constant bombardment of advertising in today's society can be incredibly difficult" and we all know what marketing companies set out to do. I think that this has fed into the insecurities of getting the right presents, spending enough and worrying about sounding as if you're "bragging" whenever you mention what you got for Christmas.

There's no doubt in my mind that the new age has changed Christmas and the way that we view this time of year but I do strongly believe that the core values are still there. It's remains a family holiday which we like to celebrate together and anything that brings families together for even just one day out of 365 cannot be a bad thing, can it?

What do you think? Let me know in the comments!
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  1. Reading through this post and I couldn't help nodding to everything aha! Awe I remember the Argos catalogue days :(
    Morgan // www.justmorgs.com

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    1. Aww, I'm so glad I'm not the only one who thinks this! Thank you so much for your comment Morgs!

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